Spanking bare asses is such a pleasure. If you missed my post on what it feels like when I get someone to spank my bare ass, or if you’ve never had the pleasure, you may want to read up on how erotic a spanking can be first.

Whether spanking sex is a hot new fetish for you or you’ve just never been on the giving end before, or if you enjoy delivering a bare butt spanking frequently, you can learn something from this post. I had my submissive sex toy write it, and she is well trained in our community by a whole lineage of dominant women who mentor the worthy. And worthy she is…

How to Spank Her Ass So She’ll Beg for More

A spanking can be gentle and loving or intense and painful, and either way, a whole lot of fun! It’s a great place to begin exploring S&M and kinky sex in general, cuz it’s pretty hard to cause major injury. Here’s an idea of the kink of hot orgasmic sex that spankings stimulate, in case you are curious: lesbian spanking sex video with Sinn Sage

Steps to Erotic Spanking Success

1. Always maintain control: avoid uncontrolled or unintentional pain to help promote trust and as much pleasureas possible by learning good technique
2. Communicate: discuss what you both find intriguing about spanking. Is it the physical sensation, the sense of vulnerability, the power dynamic, etc? Knowing why your partner is interested will give you most of the information you need as to how to deliver the spanking.
3. Boundaries: find out what your partner’s limits or boundaries are. Are they only interested in feeling your hand, or are they willing to try out a ruler, hairbrush, paddle, etc? Is it ok to leave marks on their normally pale ass? Would telling them what a ‘bad, naughty little girl’ they’ve been turn them on, or bring up emotional triggers from the past? Determine a “safe word” or some other agreed upon signal that things have gone too far and agree to stop if it is uttered. That way you can say “stop” and “no” and continue to play until the safe word is needed, if you want.
4. Determine Preferences: find out what kind of sensation your partner likes. Two common categories of potentially painful sensation are ‘thud’ and ’sting’. Some people lean heavily towards one or the other, and may find only one or the other pleasurable. It will serve you well to know their preference (though you may chose to withhold the preferred pleasure to mess with her head).
5. Assume the Position!

have your subject bent over your knees, laying across your lap, or bent over a desk or other piece of furniture.

6. Touch, Get Physical, and Get in their Head: begin touching him or her, run your hands over their ass, over their thighs and back, firmly grab their hair, position them to your liking. Most of all… let them know how much you are enjoying their ‘helpless predicament’. Let them hear your evil smile, and your passion or downright happiness about what you’re about to do!

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Tonight I gave my first BDSM lesson. To my old boss. It was a double fantasy because she is hot and outwardly dominant, and used to boss me around. She wanted to play these fetish games but wasn’t getting anywhere on her own, and she knew I was experienced in these matters. She looks a lot like one of my favorite pornstars, Joanna Angel, so if this visual helps you enjoy the rest of this fantasy, please join her site. It is well worth it with tattooed alt-porn galore, with real chicks that fuck for real:

First she had to overcome the fear of getting too far into S & M play. I discovered that she wanted spanking and light bondage, and she thought she wanted to learn to tie knots. Her initial resistance to all of this was reduced by my insistence that she trust me. I knew she wasn’t ready to take on being on top. She brought a male friend into the lesson, and he was a willing subject but not too keen on getting tied up. I explained how much fun the bottom has and she announced suddenly “I think I am a submissive!”

That was my signal. I threw the boy aside, put her in the corner and got to work. First step: BLINDFOLD. It’s the most magical piece of equipment to have, lets us isolate the senses and begins to alter the consciousness. I learned she was eager to be taken down, rather than surrender willingly. Finally after all those times she had me do stupid stuff at work, I had my way with her… (more…)