Spanking bare asses is such a pleasure. If you missed my post on what it feels like when I get someone to spank my bare ass, or if you’ve never had the pleasure, you may want to read up on how erotic a spanking can be first.

Whether spanking sex is a hot new fetish for you or you’ve just never been on the giving end before, or if you enjoy delivering a bare butt spanking frequently, you can learn something from this post. I had my submissive sex toy write it, and she is well trained in our community by a whole lineage of dominant women who mentor the worthy. And worthy she is…

How to Spank Her Ass So She’ll Beg for More

A spanking can be gentle and loving or intense and painful, and either way, a whole lot of fun! It’s a great place to begin exploring S&M and kinky sex in general, cuz it’s pretty hard to cause major injury. Here’s an idea of the kink of hot orgasmic sex that spankings stimulate, in case you are curious: lesbian spanking sex video with Sinn Sage

Steps to Erotic Spanking Success

1. Always maintain control: avoid uncontrolled or unintentional pain to help promote trust and as much pleasureas possible by learning good technique
2. Communicate: discuss what you both find intriguing about spanking. Is it the physical sensation, the sense of vulnerability, the power dynamic, etc? Knowing why your partner is interested will give you most of the information you need as to how to deliver the spanking.
3. Boundaries: find out what your partner’s limits or boundaries are. Are they only interested in feeling your hand, or are they willing to try out a ruler, hairbrush, paddle, etc? Is it ok to leave marks on their normally pale ass? Would telling them what a ‘bad, naughty little girl’ they’ve been turn them on, or bring up emotional triggers from the past? Determine a “safe word” or some other agreed upon signal that things have gone too far and agree to stop if it is uttered. That way you can say “stop” and “no” and continue to play until the safe word is needed, if you want.
4. Determine Preferences: find out what kind of sensation your partner likes. Two common categories of potentially painful sensation are ‘thud’ and ’sting’. Some people lean heavily towards one or the other, and may find only one or the other pleasurable. It will serve you well to know their preference (though you may chose to withhold the preferred pleasure to mess with her head).
5. Assume the Position!

have your subject bent over your knees, laying across your lap, or bent over a desk or other piece of furniture.

6. Touch, Get Physical, and Get in their Head: begin touching him or her, run your hands over their ass, over their thighs and back, firmly grab their hair, position them to your liking. Most of all… let them know how much you are enjoying their ‘helpless predicament’. Let them hear your evil smile, and your passion or downright happiness about what you’re about to do!

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I share this spanking story in case it helps someone learn how to enjoy spanking. Or simply for my own pleasure.

Can pain make you come? I just left the dungeon of a professional femdom, and I am flying high with a sore ass. It hurts to sit as I type this. I lost track of how many orgasms I had, and she never stimulated my pussy or asshole. It amazes me how many players I meet never get to experience this feeling: overcome with electricity of pain so great that it becomes pleasure.

I admit, I don’t always fly like this. This Domina is one of the top pros in town, and she read me like a book. Collaring me and making me kneel before her to become her pet sex toy, I entered a world of submission that is my most favorite place to be. Ironically, it’s where I get to be the most free. By agreeing to simply obey her every command while I wear her leather collar and to be in service to her desire, I am free from all the other rules of society, and I can explore the extraordinary potential of my mind and hers. The closest thing I could relate it to outside of this kinky world is in scuba diving, that feeling of being neutral in the water, using weights to keep so the breath carries me up and down in the water. Well, that’s nothing like it, except for the breathing.

She used belts and cuffs to strap me to the most fabulous spanking bench I have ever seen, spanked with her bare hands in the most loving way, flogged masterfully, then lashed with the single tail. I have lots of nice marks from the session, purple and red, swollen…it truly aches as I type. When she had my red ass the color of scarlet, she took me off the bench and tied me to a St. Andrews Cross to torture my front side, pinching my nipples, flogging my pussy and chest.

The feelings I had as she raised the energy of each subsequent pinch, slap of hand, thud of flogger and sting of whip are hard to believe. Aside from the tools of a well equipped dungeon and gear, there was one tool in particular she used that is clearly her greatest power. It’s one that each one of us has and can assist us in many ways beyond kinky play. Read on to find out what that one tool is and hear details of how she got me to orgasm through spankings. (more…)