Living this Polyamory lifestyle successfully requires a few things.

One must: be open, honest, patient and be an excellent communicator. If you’re currently in a primary relationship and are looking to open it up to include secondaries, some negotiation with your primary must happen first. You both need to agree on: how much time will be devoted to secondaries, will you be sharing (as in threesomes) or will they be independent relationships, are you ok with secondaries being in your house/bed, will the three of you do dinner or other everyday activities together from time to time? Then comes more technical stuff… what kind of activities are ok? Are you comfortable with your partner having hot, steamy sex, but would prefer they not kiss the other on the mouth? Do you want penetration reserved for only you two, but fondling up to third base is fine? And, my own two cents, I don’t care what your situation is, discuss safe sex expectations! It’s not only your health, but your partners that may be put in jeopardy.

Be aware… you can negotiate all this to death beforehand. Your partner may say, “oh sure, I don’t want to limit you, I’m fine with all of this, go ahead and fuck her brains out in our bed with me reading a book in the next room”. And then, the first time it happens, you may emerge all sweaty and satisfied to find them huddled in a corner crying hysterically. It’s one thing to talk about being poly, but one never knows how they will feel until it’s put into practice. Thus, my advise is to start slowly. Begin with flirting in front of your partner, some light touching, and check in. Even the poly-est person who ever poly-ed can be affected by jealousy and insecurity at times. That’s ok, don’t call it quits just yet. Acknowledge these feelings, address them with patience and compassion, and renegotiate. Remember, this situation is supposed to make everyone happy if done ethically and consciously. (more…)

This hot Femdom does not go to kinky leather events without first sending one of my subs to scout it for me. My dear submissive sex toy went to the leather sex event in Saratoga Springs, near Clear Lake, California recently. After reading her review I have decided to seriously consider attending next year. Read it and let me know if you find her account equally as enticing by leaving a comment…

Leather Sex for All Sexual Orientations

Leather Levi Weekend is a pansexual BDSM conference that takes place at a retreat north of Ukiah, California. 3 days of camping, swimming, attending workshops and playing into the wee hours of the morning. Lots of naked debauchery is possible…it’s clothing optional!

If you need more incentive than this delightful description, I’m happy to share a bit of my personal experience at this event. (But not all the juicy details… some of the magic is reserved for my happy memory alone. )

I arrived on Thursday afternoon, slightly tired out by the long drive in the hot sun, and loath to set-up my 5-person tent by myself. Yes, I went alone with a 5-person tent. Why? For one thing, it’s the only tent I own. For another, I wanted my options open for having uh… visitors.

As soon as I began laying out the pieces of my tent, I was approached by my camping ‘neighbors’ who gracefully offered, and proceeded to, help me get set up. This was a wonderful glimpse of the kind of people who attended. I found everyone to be friendly and welcoming… and not in a creepy, “I’m doing this to get into your pants” kind of way.

Tired and dirty, I headed into the well-stocked, clean restroom to wash up (what a luxury while camping), then headed off to dinner. For such an event, the food was quite good. I let them know ahead of time that I was a strict vegetarian and they had no problem accommodating me throughout the weekend, with entrees of tempeh and tabouli, tofu and sauteed mushrooms. Upon entering the dining lodge, I was offered a seat by strangers at their table, and we talked and laughed through dinner as if we were old friends.

After dinner I headed to the main lodge for a meet n greet and some social time. While there playing a game, I met a most delightful, rather hot, butch-femme couple who grabbed my attention awfully quickly. From there I went for a soak in the enormous outdoor hot tub, then headed back to my tent for a good nights sleep.

Hot Lesbian Sex and Beatings by Butch-Femme Dykes

As lovely as this all was, it was the next day that I began to really have fun. The aforementioned hot couple approached me, and asked if I would be interested in negotiating a scene later that day. (more…)

This is part II of my series on poly lifestyle. If you missed my rant about jealousy and promiscuity, JFKs enema parties and young sluts, you may want to start with Poly Lifestyles Trending. I was just mentioning my own young slut, a sweet submissive girl who I may command to do anything for me. She wrote this:

Open Relationships 101: From Bisexuality to BDSM

Here’s the post I asked my poly lesbian lover of 2 years to write cuz she’s all into presenting this kinda thing while I am more just into orgasms…lots of orgasms. I have to break it up into two cuz she’s such a geek she has so much to say but I don’t think you will find her overcoming her gay-ness any time soon, nor her poly-ness…

I am currently dating an incredible woman… (more…)

Poly People it’s time to celebrate! Newsweek reported last week that more than half a million families in the US are Polyamorous Families!

History of Polyamory

They covered interesting tidbits: the term “polyamory” was coined in the 1990’s and added to the dictionary in 2006, the modern poly movement was started in the early 50s by a Yale theologian. They cover the gay marriage v. poly thing, and the feminist bent of the modern poly scene. It’s going so well until…Rutgers professor Helen Fischer is quoted saying that polyamorous couples are “fighting Mother Nature” and we’re hard wired for jealousy.

Really? I don’t want to fight Mother Nature! I want to Lick her Pussy!

Kinky is More Natural Than Jealous for Us Poly Folk

And the only trait that seems to be truly hard-wired for our species, if you read the news, is promiscuity: From the Clinton intern sex scandal to the Elliott Spitzer’s ordeal last year, and the recently outed young lover from John F Kennedy’s swinger parties back in the 60’s and on back to the Bible, our elite classes, leaders, and entertainers do seem to be more prone to fool around than to stay loyal. Is it that only the common folk are inherently jealous?

Not in my circles. My dear submissive girl, she’s not “common” nor is she famous. She’s quite special, (more…)

Protest Prop 8 Ruling the FUN way…have Gay SEX. Watch good lesbian porn if you need to learn how, and join me in fucking your protest. (Courtney Trouble’s Roulette is a great adult movie with super hot lesbian scenes and some hot punk porn scene where two gay guys get it on outside on a San Francisco rooftop, with glimpses of City Hall in the background).

I am planning a date with a hot lesbian tonight, rather than going to get arrested in protest. We’ll be going to watch my friend Kitty McMuffin get us all horny at Lusty Lady strip club, and seeing if I can lick her pussy in such a small space. I will be bringing my favorite suction cup based dildo to ride, lots of lube and a dental dam (always with the safer sex!).

Gay Sex is still alive and well, as well as gay porn. I thought you might like a reminder, in case you are angry about the gay marriage ruling. I am pissed, but I am also delighted that, in all of this debate over marriage, the thing to remember is that what makes the bigots’ blood really boil, mostly due to their fear that THEY might have the ‘gay gene,’ is the idea of gay sex. See, we (meaning those who want to be free and are not afraid to blog about it) are winning, and they (who wish to restrict our freedom) are loosing. Not only are queers taking over marriage, state by state, but also PORN, and entertainment in general, and er, well, um … the WORLD. We’re here, we’re QUEER, get used to it! If you want to support us, buy real queer porn from real queers, shop at queer-owned businesses in general. If you don’t like it, read on…

SO, while the LA Times reports on dueling signs over gay marriage, I’m sharing pix of dueling dykes, who then fuck each other lovingly. It’s a sad day for civil rights. If gay porn doesn’t help you feel better maybe this will:

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